There, I said it.
Concern masquerades as care. It’s a form of civilized worry, dressed up to look good and be acceptable. “I’m concerned about how you are taking care of yourself.” (Translated: I want you to treat yourself in some way other than you are, because you aren’t doing things the way that I think is right.) “I’m concerned about what’s happening in the world.” (Translated: I don’t like the events that are taking place and somebody should do something about this!)
When you invest in a specific outcome, that outcome becomes your focus of concern.
Judgment gets in the way
Judgment often disguises itself as concern. You have an expectation or agenda that something should be different. You want something to be done your way. The situation is not meeting your expectations of life.
Everyone is responsible for their own growth. Your idea of what is needed for someone’s own good is a manipulation that thwarts everyone’s freedom—yours and theirs. First, you deny them the freedom of self-discovery. Realize that your own freedom depends upon your moment-to-moment awareness. When you feel concern, you deny yourself freedom to focus. You block the dynamic movement on your own path.
Concern, Consequence and Possibility
There is a consequence for your body. Judgment, concern and manipulation all constrict you, limiting your ability to listen and to respond. Just imagine how many of your thoughts create tightness in your body!
What if you dropped all your expectations and concerns? Your thoughts and pictures are the vehicles for interaction with the world. Being present allows you to be a witness to life’s situations while still maintaining your focus. With your thoughts free of concern, your clarity of awareness facilitates the dialogue between the outer environment and your inner guidance.
Learn to decode the information that brings your next step. Spend some quiet time in inner inquiry, asking questions geared towards discovery. You come to know what action to take and the timing that is needed.
Your responsibility is to keep your inner compass pointed to true north. This is where your freedom lies.
Take a breath. Release it. Take another. Devote some dedicated time of concentration/meditation. It doesn’t need to be hours of quiet, perhaps only 15 minutes. Then allow the question to simmer within you. Let responses bubble up into your awareness. Notice new ways of thinking, of images or ideas that arise spontaneously. Pay attention to your dreams. Let it happen. Be aware. See where it leads you next. Let yourself savor this process of receiving from yourself. Don’t judge whatever comes up, just receive it. Make notes.
I invite you to share something from this process. Sharing is an important way to anchor an insight in your body. It leads you to deeper insight. It stimulates action.
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