You feel like you are about to crash. Or maybe that was yesterday and now your only focus is to push through. What’s that about taking care of yourself? You have needs, too?
There is so much to do that you aren’t sure you know what that would mean. You don’t have time.
Think about it. Do you pay attention to your needs? In the flurry of activity that is your day, do you pause to see what they might be, and then take action accordingly?
Or do you charge forth, ignoring the warning of your inner senses? I call this overriding. To override your natural inclinations is a familiar dynamic. It seems the easier path when outside demands and inside pressures confront you.
Whether it is something as simple as eating food you know your body doesn’t like or a complex situation you shy away from addressing, overriding takes you away from your natural path.
Let’s take a look at what the dictionary says about the word “override.”
Override: to make (something) no longer valid; to have more importance or influence than (something); to ride over or across (Trample); to prevail over (Dominate); to set aside (Annul)
That’s a lot to consider.
What If You Were to Pay Attention?
You learn to override internal signals early in life. It starts first in response to how you expect your environment to be, relative to how you are actually received.
Stay with me here.
Did you feel like your needs were important? Were your choices recognized?
Over time these behaviors become the patterns that regulate the flow of your self-expression. Throttle or stream. Thee patterns get locked into your belief system and become embedded in your way of living.
The result? You sacrifice who you are and what you need to do.
How do Children Know What They Need?
Two-year-old Isaac was his usual engaging, joyful self throughout his Grand-pop’s birthday party. As the soft, soon-to-be-end-of-summer evening moved towards his bedtime, his two middle fingers found their way into his mouth, signaling his quieting down time. Then, in the midst of adult conversation and laughter, his voice came clearly: “Home. Go.”
Isaac knows what he needs. He is genius at stating his needs and seeing to it that they are known by his caretakers. It’s what two-year-olds are supposed to do: declare themselves. He has no way to override his needs.
He hasn’t yet learned to ignore himself in order to be acceptable to the outside world.
How to Build a Sense of Trust
Ignoring your inner communication fractures your forward movement.
You act without regard for the truth of yourself and others, pushing to meet some behavioral criteria. Giving way to your expectations of how others will judge your actions leaves you out of the equation. You lose trust in yourself. Your inner guidance becomes difficult to discern.
Your Needs Help Guide You
As you pay attention to the signals your body provides, you build a sense of self-ownership. Listen to your inner communication as you take action in life. This creates a purity of energy in action. You bring everything into the equation: you have regard for the situation at hand, feel the truth of what is needed and stand with yourself.
Self-denial gives way to true self-regard and self-worth. Your future—all that is to come to you and all that you are to create—demands that you listen to yourself.
This is integrity of heart in action.
You are so ready for this, aren’t you?
Take a breath. Release it. Take another. Devote some dedicated time of concentration/meditation. It doesn’t need to be hours of quiet, perhaps only 15 minutes. Then allow the question to simmer within you. Let responses bubble up into your awareness. Notice new ways of thinking, of images or ideas that arise spontaneously. Pay attention to your dreams. Let it happen. Be aware. See where it leads you next. Let yourself savor this process of receiving from yourself. Don’t judge whatever comes up, just receive it. Make notes.
You may want to share something from this process. Sharing is an important way to anchor an insight in your body. It leads to deeper insight. It stimulates action.
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