Stuck Inside the Cage
What do you do when you feel stuck in something? A job that swallows your talent. A soul-killing relationship. Even your own expectations of what you can and cannot do.
Are you a “victim of circumstance”? You may not know what to do to change direction. Maybe you expect someone else to take action so that your situation changes.
How do you move beyond this feeling of being trapped?
Here is how you begin: Crack the cage door open.
Notice if your pictures about your life are open-ended. Or are they limited by your expectations? Have you only considered actions that others would approve?
Have you forgotten the truth of who you are?
This is so important. You are so much more than your self judgments and your imposed limitations! Yet in a moment of forgetting, you give over validation to outside forces, firing up self-doubt and self-judgment. A downward spiral of destruction begins, your thoughts fueling a picture of yourself with no options.
These false beliefs become the whip you can use to punish yourself. The downward path will continue as long as you believe in things that are not true. That you cannot rise above your situation, your obligations or your sense of limitation.
You have a choice to let go of self-critical pictures. However, you must be ready to release your grip on self-denial.
Find the desire to be responsible for your own well-being. It’s there, even if it is hidden in mothballs. Replace blame—of you or of anyone else—with a sense of curiosity about your patterns of thought and behavior. Curiosity creates space for you to see. Once you see them for what they are, you can move on.
If you wish to fuel your creativity, you must trust that there is something more, even if you have forgotten the details. With trust comes a recognition and acknowledgment that another place exists. Remember the feeling in your body when there was a sense of flow. You’ve felt it before, that clarity and sense of direction. An intimate relationship with yourself brings a deep feeling of connectedness, opening new possibilities for moving forward.
When you surrender to the life force within you that keeps you alive, you will remember. Believe me, it will come.
You will swing open the door.
And you will find yourself.
Time to reflect
Now. Take a breath. Release it. Take another. Devote some dedicated time of concentration/meditation. It doesn’t need to be hours of quiet, perhaps only 15 minutes. Then allow the question to simmer within you through the weekend. Let responses bubble up into your awareness. Notice new ways of thinking, of images or ideas that arise spontaneously. Pay attention to your dreams. Let it happen. Be aware. See where it leads you next. Let yourself savor this process of receiving from yourself. Don’t judge whatever comes up, just receive it. Make notes.
You may want to share something from this process. Sharing can be an important way to anchor an insight in your body. It can lead you to deeper insight. It can stimulate action. Feel free to use this arena to share whatever moves you!